Learning that your child is gay, lesbian, bisexual, transgender, or that they are wondering about their sexual orientation or gender identity can be difficult for many parents and families.

This knowledge may conflict with how you have come to see your child. It might be inconsistent with your cultural or religious beliefs. You may be wondering if this is the result of something that happened in the past or if there is something that you might have done differently. Is it an act of rebellion? Is it a choice? You may want to support your child but be struggling with your own emotions and your own questions.

Many people’s beliefs and ideas about LGBTQ people are based on myths and stereotypes. Unfortunately, these myths and stereotypes have been around a long time and are widespread. It can be difficult for some people to set them aside.

Being LGBTQ is not medical condition. It is not a mental health concern. It simply reflects natural biological diversity – like eye colour.

Parenting style and family structure have nothing to do with whether or not a child will grow up to be LGBTQ. It doesn’t have anything to do with childhood activities or interests.

Not all gay men are effeminate. Not all lesbian women are tough. LGBTQ people are as individual and live lives as varied as heterosexual people. Ask most LGBTQ people and they’ll say that their wants and needs are the same as everyone else’s: love, understanding, and acceptance.

Being LGBTQ is not a choice. It’s who you are.

What is not a myth is the fact that LGBTQ people, particularly youth, are at a higher risk than heterosexual youth for having a number of different negative life experiences. These experiences are not a part of their sexual orientation or gender identity. Instead, these experiences result from living in a culture that is heterosexist and that does not value, respect, or often even acknowledge LGBTQ people.

The OK2BME project is a joint initiative between K-W Counselling Services and Family and Children’s Services of the Waterloo Region. It is intended to provide support to children and youth who may identify as LGBT or who may be wondering about their sexual orientation or gender identity. Click here to learn more about the beliefs that underlie the project.

We recognize that part of supporting LGBTQ children and youth is helping their parents and family to better understand their child’s needs and experiences. This may mean educating yourself about the LGBTQ communities and the resources available in your community. It may mean participating in counselling sessions with your child or meeting with a counsellor individually to talk about your own feelings and beliefs. Or, possibly some combination of the above! Click here for some links to sites that parents and families may find interesting or informative!